Daughter with boyfriend

[Mandyw27]

My daughter is 18 and met her boyfriend in March.
He is 20. Not working and found out she been spending all her money on him buying food as the mother is an alcoholic and takes drugs.
She stays there all the time and has been home 1 day in a fortnight.
I'm hating it.
She isn't working either and getting lazy.
Has no money as all goes on him.

I'm really concerned abd she's getting really distant with me and her dad
She lost her nana around the same time and I think she just trying him as a replacement.
She has mental health issues and is already on antidepressants from past things that have happened to her.
Worry is an understatement

Sorry Mom,

Its time you cut the Apron Strings and tell your daughter its time to go out on her own.

It'll be difficult at first, but it'll almost immediately teach her the value of a dollar and force her to support herself and motivate her to improve her own living/financial situation.

Sometimes we have to learn it by ourselves.

Having a Parent extend a Young Adult's adolescents into their 20's and 30's is very damaging to both the parent and child.

It's up to her but I agree it's worrying. What are her plans Uni or work? Where's she getting money from?

I wouldn't keep funding her long term but I would arrange/invite her to do nice things with you. Theatre, meal out spa. Try to have some 1:1 time which is fun and rebuild the relationship. Don't lecture her/slate him. Treat her like an adult and respect her choices but be there to support her so she knows she has you if she needs you.