Bumble

[zebrastripes99]

Anyone used/using bumble?

I've been out of the dating seen for 8 years and recently downloaded bumble 😬 I'm getting plenty of matches but what's with people not messaging?

I've tried sending messages from answering the questions that people pre set or sending the occasional "hi how are you?" Kinda vibe

Not really sure what else to send in a first message 🤣🤣

Maybe I'm just really boring and no one wants to respond 🤣

I think women have to message first on Bumble so if you’re waiting for messages from men (assuming you’re a woman seeking a man) then that may be the issue.

Can’t explain the lack of response to the few first messages you’ve sent out though, perhaps just try and ask a question based on their profile or something to stand out from other similar opening messages that they may have received.

That’s odd, presuming they’ve liked your profile as you’ve matched, you’d think they’d be delighted to get a message. Most of the blokes I met on there said they hardly got any messages! Maybe just be patient in case they’re not checking back regularly. I didn’t put notifications on for any dating apps as I didn’t want it flashing up on my Home Screen at work etc, so it may be they just don’t know there’s a message. Can’t remember if it shows as being read?

That’s OLD unfortunately. I’m on Bumble and I’d say only 1 man in about 3 responds to a message and most of the responses are pretty dry and closed.

Men generally swipe on anyone they think is vaguely attractive without actually reading the profile so once they get a message they only then look at the details and realise you live 1000 miles away or whatever

It’s just about numbers but I’d try and make your messages a little bit more than ‘hi how are you?’ - I’ve had so many similar messages and it does get dull. Maybe look at their profile and mention something from that - shows you’ve read it too.

And one thing you’ll need is a thick skin - it’s hard work for little reward.

Have a look at the dating thread on here too. That might help bring along others who are on OLD

What does OLD stand for? 🤣 honestly don't think I'm cut out for this and shall live my days out single at 26 🤣 some of the ones who do reply are SO DULL internet dating is deffo not what I remember 🤣

OLD is online dating. At 26 don’t even bother, get out in the real world and meet people at clubs or classes where you have things in common.

I met my wonderful DP on Bumble. Best thing I ever did!

Hmmm yes your initial messages sound a bit too generic, the sort that guys complain about. 'Can you believe it, she just messaged me 'hi, how are you?' 😂

I'd advise to pick out something in their profile and be a bit more personal, ask about a location of a picture, whatever it was that piqued your interest.

But more generally - get off it, go socialise, have fun, you're 26 and gorgeous, just keep your eyes open for people that like you in real life. I wish I'd been single at 26!