I have just come out of a very toxic / violent relationship I am not trying to date now as I am going through counselling and trying to heal first.
However, things are starting to come up for me as in my choice in partners in the past I was 19 the last time I was single and would go for the "bad boys" I am aware now of course at the age of 28 this absolutely not something I wish to continue.
I really value the small things now , a good man who helps me , even the smallest things like makes cups of teas if I want one ( my last relationship was awful) but in ger al makes my life easier.
I just wondered what everyone's thoughts were on attraction. People would say you just are not attracted to nice guys but that's not true. I believe that you can be attractive without necessarily being what society deems as "attractive" .
What I'm asking is can attraction grow ? If you met somebody who is a really nice guy but you're just not sexually attracted to him should I feel guilty about that ? Because I do.
I have met someone who is nice a really nice man , he models but I just don't feel sexually attracted to him. It's not because he's nice why I'm not attracted to him. I think it's more his personality there isn't much chemistry.
I don't want 6 foot , six pack , lots of money. But I don't want to be with somebody I'm not attracted to.
Just asking for opinions 🙈🤍🤣