Girlfriend going on holiday with ex and male friends

[RubyOP]

Girlfriend is going on a staycation for the weekend with her large friend group of about 10, which includes 2 girls (not including her) and her ex boyfriend. They've all been friends for a couple of years and I've met them and they all seem very nice. I've been told that the girls will be sharing a room and didn't really see any issues with this, but it is my first relationship so maybe I am being naive.

We've been together for a year in a long distance relationship and have seen each other almost every weekend. The relationship with the ex boyfriend was for 2 years during covid and they rarely saw each other, despite living in the same city. Apparently, the ex wasn't interested towards the end of the relationship and would reluctantly go on a date once a month and didn't want to move in together. This is why I don't really think of the ex as a concern.

She's been on trips with them since before we were dating and went on a trip with them in May.

Am I naive to trust my girlfriend with a group of guys and an ex that I don't know?

I don't think you're being naive. It's good to have trust in a relationship.

Do any of the other people in the group have a partner? Going forwards, if this happens again I'd expect that you would be included as part of the group?

She is going away for the weekend with friends, many of which are male - so what.
Are you insecure or don't you trust her.

do you not believe / understand the females can be friends with males ?

' She's been on trips with them since before we were dating and went on a trip with them in May. '

you say you have been in a relationship with her for a year, did you have a problem in May too ?
do you have a problem each time ?

what has changed that you are dwelling on it now ?

The way I see it...

You're either completely okay with it, but you've gotten comments from people you know about not letting your girlfriend go on vacation with this friend group and that's got you doubting your own instincts.

Or, you know you should be okay with it, but deep down you're not and are afraid to admit it.

Which one is it?
Honestly, I see zero issues with your girlfriend going on this trip. It seems completely innocent and she's never given you reason to doubt her in the past.
Thing is, if she was going to be unfaithful to you, it can happen any time, any place. You don't need to be going away for a weekend to do that. If you trust her at home, you can trust her for a few days away.

Thanks everyone, personally I agree and don't see any issues with it.
It was my mum who thinks it is a red flag. My brother had gone to the pub to meet an old girl friend and the friend had brought along 4 others girls. My mum joked that I should've gone and I joked back that i already have a girlfriend. And my mum was comparing that situation to my girlfriend going away with her friend group. But to me they are completely different scenarios

Maybe Mum shouldn't know so much about your life / your girlfriend's life.

If you trust her then you shouldn't be worrying. it wouldn't bother me.

However, if the OP was a female posting about her BF going away with lots of female friends including her Ex, I'm pretty sure the responses on here would be very different.

OP are you a male or female?

Male, we're both mid twenties too