Cleaning!

[Aurorausher]

I work part time, and do the house etc.
DH works full time. He works v hard and gets v tired - is in bed by 9 usually, watching films.
We have separate rooms as we wake each other up.
His is permanently a mess, clothes everywhere, empty water bottles, orange peel.
ill change his bed, but really think I don’t want to clean the en suite. There’s empty listerine bottles and wrappers, the loo is, well . He’s weed on the loo seat hinges so they’re rotting, and hasn’t replaced the little loo carpet where it’s got moved so the stone floor is rotting.
I just don’t want to clean it, but if I don’t, he doesn’t.
aibu? What to do?

I'd just leave it and shut the door. Like a teenager.

I would do nothing re cleaning his room; that is his job and after all he is an adult who can and does hold down a job. I daresay you work hard too. Presumably before he left home his mother ran around after her own family cleaning up after them. She did her son no favours in doing that.

Do you want to continue however, to live with such a man?. A man who seems to be happy to live in such a room?.

I hope you don't have sex with such a man......

It is pretty off putting!

Thanks attila I do find cleaning annd cooking incredibly boring! Not really what I signed up for.
He does wash his own shirts ( and asks me to iron them late on Sunday night🙄) and does cook sometimes and shops sometimes so not all bad. It’s just that bathroom!

Thanks cupid I’ve been doing that! He honestly doesn’t seem to notice- yet he want the house clutter free 🙄

Ugh, what is it with blokes and their aim? And when they miss why can't they wipe it up? I wouldn't dream of leaving dribbles on my loo seat and I'm single!

He sounds like a student. If you're happy with him in all other areas I'd simply leave him to it and don't even change the bedding.

Thanks all! I’m taking your advice and leaving it, well I changed the bedding but I’m not doing the loo! I hope that’s fair. I just think it’s deeply unsexy to be cleaning my partners loo then I’m supposed to feel sexy towards him!