My adult son has moved back home and is behaving like a teenager

[Omlettes]

Poor woman is dying of cancer and her son seems determined to make her last years a living hell.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/aug/02/my-adult-son-has-moved-back-home-and-is-behaving-like-a-teenager-and-im-deeply-unhappy

Oh, and to add the cherry on top a charming bloke in the comments posted
"I find the submitters letter quite selfish. At no point does she seem to consider the pain and upset her son might be feeling at the thought of losing his mother while only in his 20's.'

This is horribly sad.
It has given me pause for thought actually because I am actively parenting an adult child with depression at the moment (although we don’t live together) and doing it is exhausting- not just because of the depression- but because when your kids are adults there is a biological need for us to move on and let go. It’s horrible to imagine this poor situation where this woman isn’t able to prioritise herself. And that her son is too self-centred to not revert to type. A lesson would be to make our kids as self-sufficient aspossible as soon as possible.

Good grief. I hadn’t got to that bit.

I feel for her but I never quite understand these situations because they stem from half-arsed conversations and compromises. I wouldn't ask him to move out, I'd tell him to. In a calm way. Just say, I love you but I am dying and have only two years to live. Since you moved in I am beyond exhausted because you make so much extra work for me, behave like a teenager and sulk if I pick you up on it. I want a peaceful calm life without added drudgery. And above all I love you and want our last few precious times together to be enjoyable not embittered. So move out. It's not working. Let's see each other a few times a week and love our time together. Let's make a plan for some things we'd love to do together. Move in with your dad so I am not using the precious energy I have left picking up after you and bickering with you. I am not asking, I'm telling you what I need. I only have two years left to enjoy being your mum and to enjoy the rest of my life and there's no point in spending them fighting.

People should speak kindly and honestly more often.

Good to see the responses to him give short shrift. I really hope she manages to get him to move out - spend the last couple of years of life trying to be as happy and content as possible.