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When you break up, do you keep wearing the ring, stash it away or pawn it?

43 replies

Alexa808 · 14/04/2008 15:10

Just wondered what other women do/did. When my engagement fell apart my ex insisted I kept the ring. (Tosser broke up in an email as I was working abroad but saw him 5 days before announcing we're too different. Twunt.) Anyhoo, I sold the ring and got enough money to take 3 girlfriends with me to Marbella for a weekend. We had a great time and it was the best ending any of my previous relationships ever had.

What did you do? Scratch his car with the stone? Fling it down the loo? ... Tell me your stories.

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MrsMattie · 14/04/2008 15:15

My first ever serous boyfriend cheated on me and dumped me for the 'other woman' not once but twice. Eventually, he decided he wanted me back and made a big deal of wooing me - took me to a very posh restaurant, ordered champagne and presented me with a diamond ring. The ring was vile (he never did have any class) and I had no intention of taking him back, but I smiled sweetly, accepted the ring and told him I needed some time to think about things.

I pawned the ring the very next day and bought all my Christmas shopping & presents for family with the money, then phoned him from a club on New Year's Eve where I was having a whale of a time to tell him I didn't think it was going to work out.

Revenge is sweet.

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Alexa808 · 14/04/2008 15:25

Excellent story MrsMattie. Good on you!!

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CountessDracula · 14/04/2008 15:26

I was engaged once before dh when I was about 12

It was a family heirloom ring so I had to give it back

Plus I dumped him so I guess it would have been mean to keep it

VictorianSqualor · 14/04/2008 15:30

I threw my engagement ring at XDP. Fuck knows where it went.

chuggabopps · 14/04/2008 15:53

wear my wedding ring on the other hand now- its pretty and a constant reminder to be more wary in my relationships in future.

littlewoman · 14/04/2008 15:55

If I sold my engagement ring from xh, doubt it would have bought me a packet of wotsits!!

MascaraOHara · 14/04/2008 15:58

lol at some of these.

I was engaged once but the bloke wante dit back.. knowing him I expect he kept it and now some other woman is wearing it.. sad really.

NotDoingTheHousework · 14/04/2008 15:59

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chuggabopps · 14/04/2008 16:00

wonder if darren day got his engagement rings back? He must be a jewellers best friend.

littlewoman · 14/04/2008 16:44

Not if he keeps taking the rings back to them, he won't be lol.

Tough question about your wedding ring, NDTH. On the one hand it reminds you of xh, but on the other it reminds you of your mum. Bit of a mixed memory-holder, that ring eh?

davidtennantsmistress · 14/04/2008 16:47

mine are both in a tea pot at mums I don't want any reminder of them - still got 2 weddin pics up thou of me & dad.

NomDePlume · 14/04/2008 16:47

I'd reuse it if you want to. It's a family heirloom.

It's not like you are wearing the same wedding dress or anything is it ?!

NotDoingTheHousework · 14/04/2008 16:49

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NomDePlume · 14/04/2008 16:50

Erm. I have been engaged 3 times, married once (still married). The first 2 engagement rings I kept for a few years and then sold them as there was no point in keeping them. I did offer them to the ex fiances when we split but both said no. DH (then DF3!) went for a gorgeous meal and a shopping trip with the proceeds.

I (obv) still wear the 3rd one.

Wisteria · 14/04/2008 16:50

My rings are in my jewellery box and the girls have already decided which ones they're having when I die ...........I shall probably give them to them at 16 or 18 though.

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Alexa808 · 14/04/2008 21:37

Had a good time reading this. Have always been curious. NDTH: I'd use it again as it's from your side of the family, maybe have it blessed in church to 'cleanse' it and then wear it again.

DTM: in a tea pot? Better not scrub that with vinegar.

Wisteria: how lovely to see your dds seem to have mapped it all out already.

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orangehead · 17/04/2008 11:21

I prawned my engagement ring and wedding ring, didnt get alot for them, and treated 2 dss aged 1 and 2 to new toys

Pinkchampagne · 17/04/2008 11:25

No idea where my engagement ring is, but it is pretty naff now, as the diamond fell out a good year before we separated!

Wedding ring is somewhere in the depths of my bedside drawer.

fifitinkerbell · 17/04/2008 11:32

This is interesting as been wondering what to do with mine. Where is the best place to pawn them?

pleasechange · 17/04/2008 11:34

We flushed ours down the loo!

suwoo · 17/04/2008 11:41

My friend has recently split up from her H, she had beautiful and expensive platinum wedding and engagement rings, I've told her to sell them and treat herself, where is best to take them? A jeweller that deals with 2nd hand jewellery?

tinierclanger · 17/04/2008 21:25

I kept mine for a few years after my divorce, then after I had been with DP for about a year, it suddenly felt like the time to get rid. So I took them to Oxfam.

harpomarx · 17/04/2008 21:27

I wish I still had my beautiful antique engagement but my lousy ex pawned it to buy drugs...

hmm, are you surprised that we split up?

I still have the wedding ring though in a box of goodies for my dd for when she is older, it was my aunty's.

harpomarx · 17/04/2008 21:28

orangehead, am interested to know how you prawn a ring...

Scotia · 17/04/2008 21:29

I gave them to my dds - no idea if they've still got them. They are not worth much but maybe sentimental value to my girls. I took them off the day he told me he was moving out.