What would be in your relationship manifesto?!

[Newtowns1]

However you interpret it!

I want me and DP to have a better relationship so I want to put some new rules or expectations in place for us. A list of goals for the relationship maybe or be clear on what we both want. Our communication needs to be better, so I want to write down what good looks like for that. I want more romance too. I'm not always great for asking for what I need in the moment, so it'd be good to lay out my expectations. Perhaps we should include how much we'll agree to see each other (we don't live together).

If you're a list maker and brain over heart thinker like me (or even if you're not!) I'm genuinely interested to know what you would put on their 'manifesto' with your DP.

Okay, in no particular order, the top five;

• Reciprocity- of effort in the relationship and in the practicalities of running the household, of kindness and of affection. There must be give and take for both of you. The relationship should not be lopsided, with one person doing most of the giving and compromising.

• Equality. He must negotiate, not demand. You are not his house slave or sex slave. You both communicate your needs and work it out as equals.

• No breaking promises and no making promises he can't keep.

• Consideration for each other's feelings. Boundaries must be respected as well.

• No lying. No keeping secrets. Complete transparency and honesty.