scared of being alone

[lexi64]

I don't feel happy in my marriage anymore, but feel that i am too old at 44 to start again, plus i have a 2 year old. Who would me now

sorry who will want me now

No one with that attitude life begins at 40! The fact that you aren't happy should be enough to spur you on, not the fact that you're going to be alone for a while. I know i'd rather spend a year or two single, than spend the rest of my days unhappy because I was too scared to be alone. Good luck x

please try not to think like that can you not talk to your dh and explain how unhappy you are? and 44 is not old to start again should it happen.

*the fact that you could be alone for a while shouldn't hold you back

You're typos are catching

You can't think about who will want you know - its a huge step but you need to think if you (and your child) will be happier in five years time if you stay with your husband. If you decide to go it alone, given time you may well find that you don't need anyone else. Sometimes you just need to find your confidence again. I'm 39 have a 2 and 5 year old and just left my partner and know I've done the right thing. Thinking of you.

Lexi, you shouldn't think like that. Absolutely mustn't in fact. Why did you fall in love with your dh in the first place? How long have you been married for and why and how long for have you been unhappy? Is there nothing left to work on anymore? Does he know how you feel? Is it not worth to try and rebuild what you once had? Also for the sake of your 2 yo little one?

Hi I am new to Mumsnet.

I have just turned 40 and have 3 kids. My husband and I are seperated but living together. (long story).

I am so scared of being on my own when we sell the house.

The most important thing is to firstly talk to your DH and go to Relate or any other counselling. Try and sort it out first.

Taking a step at a time is very important.

I do feel for you as I was unhappy and felt alone in our marriage for a long time.

Have you got anyone you can talk to? Any family?

jazzywazzy

Do you not feel you could work things through with your husband, lexi?

I separated from my husband nearly 2 years ago, and like jazzi, I had to live with him after the separation. We lived together while separated for nearly a year, and it was very very stressful, but I was also very scared of the big move & suddenly being on my own with the boys.

As it happened, I adjusted really well to living alone, and felt a huge weight had been lifted. It was nowhere near as stressful as living together, but no longer being a couple.

My separation was one of the most stressful things I have been through, so I would look at whether there was a way I could make it work first. (I tried pretty much everything before we separated)

I didn't think too much about getting into a new relationship while going through my separation. (I am 35 with two boys) I was actually quite against the thought of getting into another relationship.

Three months after moving into my own place, I agreed to go out with a man, and 8 months on we are still together!

Good luck with whatever you decide.