I’m crying my eyes out

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He says he doesn’t love me! He’s speaking about divorce!? He’s using every against me!

OP you sound very emotional and no doubt your DH is worked up as well. Take a bit of space and see how you both feel in the morning.

What's happened? We might be able to advise if you can explain what's been going on.

He’s blaming me for talking about stuff to him for everything I’m feeling dehumanised traumatised he berates me for saying my feelings or showing them he said he can’t stand me ! He speaks to me like a child he doesn’t respect me, But I’ve been the one wanting things to work I can’t make it work on my own .

this is really traumatic I have no self esteem he’s destroyed it he belittled me recently for making a sound. He’s going to file for divorce I’m all over the place. My friend had a go at him he said it was over because of that! Why is he blaming everything on me ? I think that’s unfair as I’ve done everything in my power to get on with him etc he doesn’t care. I’m terrified of the divorce process he’s a nasty person! I stupidly thought things were going okay we were at least getting on! Sorry

You’ve posted about him before. You need to find a way to leave.

He’s a bully. I know it feels awful - this is abandonment, it’s not a feeling we can rationalize. It feels like the end is the world, but I promise you it is not.
please find support and a counselor. He’s a mean bully and you need to get free of him.

“I can’t make it on my own”

yes you can. You absolutely can. It’s only because he has broken you down that you feel that way but it’s not true. He has lied to you. Speak to women’s aid immediately. They can help you get accommodation, benefits and support to get started on your own. It will be the best thing that ever happened to you. Trust me. I know it feels like the end of the world but this is the start of your life. A life of freedom where you matter, where you can do what you like, when you like, with whoever you like, without being policed and berated. Contact women’s aid today. Block him everywhere. If you have children get a parenting app and only communicate through that. Learn the grey rock technique. You can do this. Lean of your family and friends for support. The friend who had a go at him is someone you should let help you. It sounds like they care about you.

I will try

He said I was putting on an act as I was upset I’m tearing myself apart he’s left with my daughter at his sisters I want to see my daughter. He won’t answer the phone

Are you the OP that's been posting about your abusive DH on here for years? I recognise the writing style. You can and will survive. He's doing you a favour. You don't want them growing up thinking this is normal, not only wrecking their childhood but dooming them to a lifetime of similar relationships.

Everything he says is a lie. Go and get your daughter back immediately. He has take. Her as another way to hurt you. Apply to the court to have her returned to you.

He’s enjoying hurting you - you need to find the inner strength to flip this. Don’t give him the power over you
As PP have said - you are better off without him

His behaviour is not that of a loving husband and instead of being afraid of divorce all these examples are evidence that you will thrive away from him

You can do this
Please believe in yourself