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Would you be pissed if you caught a glimpse of your DPs FB search history (he was sat next to me while searching something), and a pretty work colleague was on there?! I don't know if I sound childish tbh but not sure what to think considering he isn't really active on social media

Unless there's dodgy history I wouldn't worry about your guy doing anything. Social media is really intrusive. People who don't even know you directly will suddenly pop up, Friends, colleagues, friends of exes you name it. She could have been on there for any number of silly reasons, probably very innocent ones. Be cool, I think you're fine.

Well yes. I wouldn't like it - that's assuming it's only this pretty colleague he's bothered searching and not the guys and other female colleagues as well.

I would assume he is attracted to her.

Is she somebody he has just recently started working with?

Sorry, that is paranoia - there is a 33% chance of someone they search for being a stunner, minger, or average. She happens to be pretty - well if he looks like me then nothing to fear!!!

I have nosed round a few work people on SM. Its nothing.

Why is it paranoia?
He is a married man. Why is he searching attractive colleagues FB pages? It's at the very least disrespectful to OP showing he finds his work colleague attractive.

Where did the OP say he found her attractive?

I always SM search someone joining my team. If I did that and she happened to be good looking that is pure coincidence.

I am also capable of being friends with attractive people without any 'threat' - so if it was an ugly woman that would be fine?

Doesn’t everyone search for their colleagues, including the attractive ones? You can’t control the inside of somebody’s head. We all have eyes, we all find people attractive whatever our marital status. Leching in public = unacceptable. A private nose at the photos somebody has chosen to post of themselves online = fine. The fact that I’ve seen and appreciated a FB gym photo of our very cute Investments Manager doesn’t make me fancy or want to be married to my husband less.

Well for a start OP hasn't said this woman has just joined his team. She could be a long term work colleague for all you know.
OP says he doesn't usually use social media. So presumably he doesn't normally search for colleagues on line.
If he is working with her and has interaction with her at work why does he need to snoop on her FB page when he is at home ? It looks as though he looking for more than just work related interaction with her.

• Does he find her attractive? Has he told you? Or do you find her attractive and assume he finds her attractive too
• Have you considered any other reason why he would have searched her profile? Any new hires here get instantly looked up, just to try and get an idea of who we'll be working with. I also have a colleague who flips houses and posts pics on her FB page. I like to browse them for decor inspiration.
• Is there any FB contact between him and other colleagues at all? Or between other colleagues? Do they have after-work activities? Is there any personal interaction? My colleagues and I all meet up after work, do pizza parties at each others' houses, get wedding invites etc. Depending on the work culture, he may just be trying to fit in.

Well I have snooped at many a person, work, in the village. Some happen to be male (as I am) but have no desire on those being more than work related or nosey interactions (or for the females for that matter)

Well I gathered you were male from your posts without you needing to say so!

I've probably got every single one of my work colleagues on my Facebook search history, because I'm a nosy bugger. It's got nothing to do with whether they're attractive or not. I've also got friends, family, people I was in school with 30 years ago, some of my Mums friends.

Thats what social media is for, I couldn't care less who DP has searched for, and I wouldn't even think about looking!

Why would your search new colleagues on SM? You can tell someone had been creeping on your page as they come up suggested friend

Totally innocent, just wanted the lowdown on his work collegue. We've all done it tbh havent we?

To get an idea of them outside of interview setting if possible. Do they post offensive stuff, are there any red flags that spring up?

Nah. I see things posted sometimes and then look them up again later. I did it the other day. Someone posted a video and I couldn’t watch it at the time so I looked them up later and watched it then. Could be something as straight forward as that

He's just being nosey.