I know what I need to do.....but I need to hear it.

[BuckaDuck]

Been together 3 years. Lived together for 1 year.
Kids but not together.
Out tonight for a few drinks and food, lovely fun evening.
Conversation somehow on the way home ended up about women in difficult situations with men.
His stance is "just walk away". I explained that for women that is not always the safest option.
I said we have to way up the situation as in less harm to stay & slip away or just leave.
He replied no just leave.
I said women do not always have that option.
He said you do.
We argued I said as a man you will never understand. He said he does. More to and fro then he threw his drink over me and went to bed.

I need to leave.
I know I do.
I have nowhere to go but I need to.

Another shit relationship under my belt.

You need to leave immediately.

He threw his drink at you because you didnt back down in an argument? What a bell end. Get rid OP, you deserve better

Whaaaaaat? He threw his drink over you. Has he form for this? Absolutely leave him.

He needs to become an ex, this is over.

Where are your children?.

If this is also another shit relationship under your belt I would suggest you enrol yourself onto the Freedom Programme and not enter into another relationship until your own boundaries are a lot higher. Consider too what you learnt about relationships when you were growing up as parental influence is powerful.

This is crackers. You absolutely have to leave

Sorry OP. What an absolute arsehole. Massive respect to you for not even hesitating on what you need to do.

He was insuniation you need to leave, you said fot women it's not always an option and he threw his drink at you. Is this correct? Why are you considering staying op? Do you have a place to go? Is it money? Too much love for this arsehole? Are you bring abused and are in love with your abuser? Have you lost confidence? Whatever it is, there's always a solution other than continuing to be abused, and feeling worthless. Take this step, for you, for your child, for your child to look up to you rather than be trapped in unhappiness. Decision is hard, but once you're in a new environment you'll instantly feel so much better and start seeing things clearly. Every minute is a waste of your life, and what it could be.

I have little savings around 2,000 and no real place to go. Renting where I live is beyond my means.
My children are adults youngest at uni.

I have decided to pack some things and go to work in the morning then stay with my mum. I wanted to avoid that as she will worry but I have no where else.
I am 45. I thought I had done my knobhead years!

Christ. You're better off without him. What a cock.