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Dating a "nice" man after an avoidant

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Sundaycoffee · 31/07/2024 15:01

Early stages of dating a new man after my avoidant ex of 8 years (on and off).
I know its entirely my issue but I'm struggling with adapting to this new change. My ex was always "busy". Hot and cold, often one word replies on texts. I always felt like I was chasing him and became very used to a relationship that was always somewhat at arms length.
Our relationship came to an end in November.
Fast forward to today I am now dating a lovely man. He makes the effort with me, he is incredibly consistent, communicative and predictable.
It's early stages but after my previous relationship I am struggling to adapt to this new "normal". Entirely my issue. I do really like him but at the same time feel a little overwhelmed by it all. Not because he's "too much" but I have just been used to years of too little.
Not sure what I'm asking exactly but just wondering if anyone else had been through the same situation and how they adapted?

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