Am i in the wrong or is he

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I woke up this morning to use the loo but DH was in it getting ready for work. I knew this because the door was not completely closed.So I decided to go back to bed and come back later.

He comes in the room and complains I did not say good morning or good bye. I said he wasn't leaving yet and we text when he gets to work before he starts because he usually leaves earlier than I need to as I start work a bit later. He gave me a kiss goodbye and left.

All you wise people, was I in the wrong for not saying anything through the door before returning to bed?

Thanks for reading

Whose got time for this nonsense in the morning?

Sometimes if H is leaving late we have a conversation, sometimes we don't see, or text, each other until both back home.

You are supposed to be two independent adults. Sounds quite needy, texting and saying/not saying good morning.

Neither of you were in the wrong. Or right.

Neither of you were wrong. Or right.

It was a nonsense. There was a very slight change to your routine because you got up to use the loo.

You could have said hello but you didn't. Its not a big deal and I'm surprised that anyone has time to be bothered by this.

This comes down to expectations. He expected you to say good morning through the door. Now some people are very comfortable talking to their partner through the bathroom door, some are not, you need to decide what you will do going forward.

So usually you are asleep when he leaves, this morning you were awake. Maybe this is his way of saying it would be nice to see you in the morning or if you are awake it would be nice to say morning to each other.

Neither of you is wrong. How you resolve what happened and how you communicate is important. Maybe a door not fully closed is the signal to say morning, a closed door means don't talk to me. My Dh has IBS so if I didn't speak to him through the bathroom door I might not see him for vast periods of the day and yes he genuinely needs to be in there. He is not a shirker.

Well some people get very annoyed if you try and talk to them through closed doors - in my personal experience! And especially if they are in the bathroom.

Personally I don't think you did anything wrong at all. But i would wonder about your DH getting upset that you didn't. Is he normally so sensitive?

If this is all you have to worry about then I would count yourself very lucky!

Your husband needs a hobby because this is fucking ridiculous. If you had left the house without saying goodbye, I would understand his point and agree with him, but this is bonkers.

He was being a prat. You wanted to use the toilet and he was in there, so you went away again until the bathroom was free. On what planet do people have to say good morning or goodbye in that scenario? The only time speaking is necessary would be to say 'hurry up, I'm desperate'.

I can see your husband’s point, but only if I assume he normally leaves for work before you wake up.

Yeah, it might have been nice if you had said good morning to him but he did get to see you before he left as came in to the room to moan at you. Did he say good morning to you at that point?

It all seems like an overreaction to a non-event.

This is a lot of drama for something most people wouldn't even think about. So nobody is in the wrong ..... or both are, for making such a performance about a normal morning.

Why do you need somebody to be 'in the wrong'?

What rules are we all meant to be living by, to tell us what is allowed and what isn't? Where do we go to refer to them?

That kind of neediness would give me the ick 😂

I mean, I would have scared the 💩 (literally) out of him. I would literally murder someone if they did that to me though, BUT honestly stop overthinking, your husband sounds fun. As do you. And the fact you care so much to even post this, you’re lovely.

I would have said hurry up or how long will you be 😂

I don’t say good morning anyway. Why didn’t he say something if he knew you were outside