Emotional closeness in a relationship…can this come back?

[Tammybell]

I ended a relationship with a man a few months ago because I felt we were very emotionally disconnected, there was no real in depth conversations or connection although I was very fond of him and attached to him. I couldn’t really find the worlds to properly explain what was missing but I just knew it was that emotional closeness, he wouldn’t ask much and said he thought it better to wait until I brought stuff up to him (just how was your day kinda stuff).
anyway I’ve recently started thinking about him again and that I miss him. Do you think this emotional closeness can change?

If you didn't have an emotional connection what is it you're missing?

I felt it was missing the emotional connection

Then it's unlikely to surface. If he's genuinely interested then questions about how you're feeling, what you're up to, how your day has been nad being interested would come naturally.

Yeah I just remember feeling like it wasn’t there. We definitely weren’t just friends so there was a romantic side but just the deep emotional connection that you hope to find and build never really came. When I spoke to him he said he knew he was holding back there but then it never changed.
but I do find myself missing him now

And in six months time.......................

I’m not sure how that would magically change though.
when you had the conversation with him was he willing to improve? Personally, I know that emotional intimacy is high up on my priority list, otherwise the guy can well be anyone.

He was but it didn’t improve much. I think he thought I meant to show his emotions I.e get upset. But that’s not what I meant when I said the emotional connection.

He's obviously not seeing you as a person. it's basic to connect with another human.

I think it was maybe a maturity thing, not that he acted like a kid but he just wasn’t at that point yet. Like for example I’m told him a bit of sad family news and he doesn’t know what to say or how to respond, so it feels unsupportive despite me knowing he does care.

How old is he?

he’s 33 and I’m 36

A 33 year old is mature enough unless he's on the spectrum.

No wouldn’t say that. He’s a quiet kinda guy, doesn’t say much

Well you've had my thoughts. I'm sure someone else will come along with a view point

I had one like this and it slowly broke me. Don't do it. Plenty of men have empathy and can be interested in you. It will really matter when something bad happens