Do you need "away time" from your partner?

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As in... do you crave time where they go away and you have the house to yourself?

I do .. and wondering if it's normal or a sign that we aren't a strong couple?

He VERY rarely goes away or even goes out with his friends/ to hobbies etc which makes it harder I think.

Keen to know your thoughts.

DH works away at least 1 night most weeks and I love it!
Sometimes I'm completely on my own sometimes the DSC are here it's a really nice balance.
I'm always really happy when he gets home though.

Yep, we're both introverts and both enjoy alone time for our hobbies or just solo chill time. Been together 18 years and very strong and happy!

You see, in a way, I do think this sounds really lovely but it's also my idea of hell! I'm just amused at how different we all are.

Yes. We both 'enjoy' time apart always have and have been together 35+ years

This sounds lovely, sometimes I wish I was like this. I'd probably still have a partner 😂 All of my ex's except for one, wanted to spend every waking moment with me and I couldn't stand it, hence they ended things and found others that preferred to be connected at the hip. Guess that's why I'm still single in my 50s 😂

Yep and he enjoys time away from me.

It's perfectly normal.

As is not wanting to be away from each other.

You do you.

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To be honest, our kids accuse of being antisocial. Whenever they introduce us to a new person they say “don’t mind them - they only like each other”
So I don’t think they aspire to be like us.

Oh yes. Loads. As does he.

I am not at all sociable and he is extremely sociable as long as he has had enough alone time first and gets more after 😁

He goes on holiday every year with our sons. Best part of the year for me.
Then when they get back he books himself somewhere for a few days so he can have a holiday too.

He was out of the country for a while at the beginning of the year and we spoke maybe once a week and had WhatsApp messages maybe two or three times a week on average.

We are probably on the extreme side of needing alone time tbh 😁

My parents were the opposite. Every hour not at work was spent together. My mum can't understand why me and my husband really enjoy time alone and can get a bit judgy about it

Yup would be harder with children.
We’re both divorced though with children grown and flown.
Both of us did the traditional 2.4 kids, family house and dog chapter in an earlier life, but neither of us has any yearning to go back to it.
Not married, don’t intend to, both financially secure so zero merging of money outside of shared expenses.
Handy that one property is right in zone 1 central London, the other is a sprawling leafy place in the Home Counties countryside an hour away. It’s lovely having those options open to us both (either together or separately!)

I do. I get quite a lot of it as DH's job occasionally takes him away for weeks at a time. It was much harder when the children were young, but I still appreciated the time apart. Now I just love it and barely miss him. We've been married 30 years so something is working.

I need time away from DH (and the kids). We've been happily together for over 20 years.

I think the covid lockdowns "broke" something inside me and now I crave solitude so much more than I used to.

I don't particularly need the house to myself - although I suppose that is easier for us in that we can be in the house, and be in separate rooms - but we do spend lots of time doing things without the other person. We each have our own interests and I think that is a fairly healthy state for a relationship.

yes, I go on solo holidays and have been doing so since we married over 25 years ago. He does too.I also go to the theatre, gigs and gallleries alone sometimes.

Some of my friends are married to insecure husbands who won't let them go anywhere alone. I could not put up with that.

Yes. But we have a relationship that suits. Both self-employed and often work from home so we need alone time to get on with work. We live 15 minutes down the road from each other. I like having my home colour scheme how I want it, peace and relaxation in my own space. I've lived with a man before and it wasn't for me really. I don't want to live with a man 24/7 it's too much. Seeing him 2/3 times weekly works best. If really busy we sometimes don't see each other for a week. We talk every day. We socialise, holiday etc together, jointly own a vehicle and a holiday home. We do a hobby together too and we also have separate interests apart from that. It's fine. I think we may live together one day as we've grown older. We're going to make sure we still have rooms designated as his/her space

Each to their own tho, I'm sure it's equally as nice for people who love being with their partner all the time (as long as that's reciprocated) too

God yes, I love him but he does my head in if he's around all the time.
He has a job which requires him to work away maybe 1-2 weeks out of 6 and I love it when he's away! 🤣