Hi,
So I've been good friends with this woman since 2021 and we go out with the kids and I go there for a coffee and she comes round mine, we would have breakfast together, get our brows done, you know all the girl things you do.
She recently got a new friend from the school her daughter goes too and they've become really close.... I mean I'm happy for her because she needs other mum friends and I'm glad she found someone else too.
Here's the but.
Soo I have felt a little pushed aside by her in the recent month or two, I recently mentioned to my friend about going on a girls night this was back in may and it was dream boys I had never been and wanted to experience it but she said she can't because her husband won't be happy about it I was like ok cool I get it then this new friend mentions it and within two days she's going.... I was like ok. Then she asked me if I wanted to go Zumba with her I was up for it but couldn't get anyone to have the kids I have 4 on my own, no friends or family to help soo I had to say I'm so sorry I can't go soo now she goes with her new friend I was like ok that's cool, we used to get our brows done and stuff like that but don't anymore and she goes with the new friend now, I was like ok fair enough, then this Friday just gone we went out all three of us I felt a bit weird if honest because I have felt a little pushed out and they are always together I also found out that this new friend has a key to her house and that they go round each others for drinks etc some weekends anyways back to this Friday so we went out to the show and went into town for a few drinks I saw my mum out and my other friend and they come over and said hello they said we are going to toilet be back soon I went ok they come back and said we need to get food and we will be back then the new friend said it's ok I'll take her I went oh really she went yeah stay here with your mum I said your both coming back though aren't you? They both said yes, well they didn't.... they left me I text them both are you coming back as time had passed and I got a screen shot of them eating food and it said on way home they didn't tell me they was going home no messages or calls and it just made me feel really shitty.
I'm now just thinking why do I bother trying to make friends when this happens to me most of the time in the last 4 years I've lost 4 friends because of others reasons I won't go into but I just feel really shit about it.
Am I over reacting? Or am I right for feeling shit about it?
I'm extremely low at the moment as it is and that really didn't help I was looking forward to that night for over a month and it just turned shit. I'm a single mum off 4 and rarely go out as it is prob twice a year if that and it just made me feel like I'm not good enough or I was boring 🤷🏼♀️
Please no nasty comments as feeling pants as it is. My friend did apologise and feel bad but in the years I've been out with friends etc I've never just ditched them we go out as a group we go home as a group no one gets left. If I'm honest I just feel maybe I should step away and let them crack on with it. What's everyone's thoughts on this?
Apologises in advance if you think this is a stupid thread but I just wanted to get it off my chest. 🤷🏼♀️