My partner and I welcomed our baby 4 months ago, both in our twenties and we had a really great birth, we were very lucky. I put on a lot of weight whilst I was pregnant and from about 5 months pregnant onwards my partner had zero interest in having sex with me, initially he said it was down to not wanting to hurt the baby etc but there were times when he had a few drinks and would suggest I was much bigger than I used to be. Up until falling pregnant we had an amazing sex life and I was hopeful that things would return to normal after baby was born (or at least start to improve) but he rejects me constantly and can’t even get it up, on the odd occasion we have had sex he’s lost his erection and had said that he thinks it could be ED but he watches porn regularly and can finish when he’s watching that so I feel like the problem is more focused around how he feels about me rather than being a physical issue. He watches porn on his phone when he’s out of the house and says it’s due to him being horny then and not being horny at home but i know it’s because he isn’t really attracted to me in the way that he used to be. I know it’s still early days after the baby being born but it’s really getting me down and my self esteem has plummeted, he doesn’t want to try to make an effort and keeps making excuses saying things will hopefully get better but I just feel like he’s completely lost any sexual interest in me. I’m trying to lose the baby weight but am breastfeeding and having to keep my calorie intake up each day so I can’t diet in the same way I used to, I feel like his feelings towards me are only skin deep and I just don’t know how to make this better as sex has always been very important to me in a relationship. I have to say he’s been the most amazing dad to our baby and completely adores her so I am very lucky in that sense, I can just see myself becoming very run down if this continues and despite us talking about it nothing seems to get better and no effort is being made at all