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Sister in law questioning my social media?!

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beachbumska · 28/07/2024 18:05

Feel like I am going crazy! My sister in law has asked before why I don’t really post my fiancé on my IG, and it’s because I really don’t post much and I just don’t like sharing my private life anymore after heartbreak. I understand her concerns but it’s really none of her business and I have told her before about why etc.

anyway I made a new instagram lately, I only have about 100 followers, and today I wanted to post to my story a similar photo that I posted yesterday, so I made it a close friends story rather than public (because it was repetitive) anyway, she msgs me saying “why a private story again?!!”

im like huh? I didn’t want to bore people with the same photo, is that bad? And then she backtracks and is like oh it’s your page people want to see photos, and it’s a new page so people want to see it

i mentioned it to my fiancé thinking he would agree with me because he never does. His response was yeah why did you post it to close friends that’s weird and completely made me feel crazy too? He said “who am I hiding from” Like he NEVER has my back. All I expected him to say was why is she even asking you that. So I guess now I have to explain myself to his little sister too? Like what the hell. Again I’m more angry at my fiancé for not agreeing with me that it was totally unnesscary. He is so quick to tell me when I’m being stupid and out of order and has NO TIME for my drama or comments, so why not with her. Sigh. AIBU?

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beachbumska · 28/07/2024 19:34

StaunchMomma · 28/07/2024 19:08

Love this!

Younger women are sometimes weird about SM, I've found (I've caught a bit of judgement/questioning from eg cousins for not posting loads of pics of DS/not announcing our engagement on SM/ not posting holiday pics/ not putting gushy pics and messages on for family birthdays/Mother's Day etc) - it's like they question why you don't want everything out there in the way they do, but as far as I'm concerned, life still happens if it's not all over Insta!

This does kinda prove that revenge via SM would sting them!

I didn’t announce our engagement all over SM and she questioned that and said girl to girl it’s wierd how I don’t post him and why not. I would never dream of speaking to my brothers wife like that and she doesn’t hardly post Him! Does it mean she doesn’t respect me, or her own brother for speaking to me like that. Like get over social media damn.

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beachbumska · 28/07/2024 19:35

Havingasmashingtime · 28/07/2024 19:14

How did she know that the story you posted was private?
does insta show to others that your story is set to private?
or did someone tell her you had a story on and she was blacked from seeing it

It was a close friends story. She is one of my close friends on there so she saw it!!

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JFDIYOLO · 02/03/2025 16:37

Yeah, your problem isn't your Instagram.

Kahless · 02/03/2025 16:40

Secondguess · 28/07/2024 18:07

He is so quick to tell me when I’m being stupid and a bitch

Instagram is surely the least of your problems

This

Why are you with him?

Redlocks28 · 02/03/2025 18:17

He is so quick to tell me when I’m being stupid and a bitch

Nice.

Well, she isn't actually your sister in law, you know. If you don't marry him, she will never be. I'd be considering that as an option...

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