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It's an adult siblings/parents one

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OneAlertMintFox · 28/07/2024 16:20

Prepared to be told it's just me and I'm being silly here!

Family situation: there are 3 of us, 2 bio siblings and 1 step. Our parents married after I had left home so we never loved together as a family. My mother is now recently widowed and has moved to be nearer one of the boys. I am fine with this. It's a complicated relationship and I'm having therapy at the moment to try and unpick things.

Mother came to stay with us for a few days. Worked really hard to deal with the stress this causes me, and thought I'd done pretty well. She told me about the holiday she's going on with 1 of the boys (she is paying) and the money she's giving the other. Again, I'm fine with this. I haven't asked for anything in prob 20 years. Haven't had an Xmas or bday present.

She wants me to visit her new place. I suggested a thing we could do if I visit (a famous place that does lunch). Her immediate response: it's too expensive.

I know it's childish, but I just feel so hurt and so stupid for suggesting it, especially when she's open that she's giving regular handouts to the other 2 and I get literally nothing. Not even a token bday present (TBF I was the one to say no presents because she would ask what I wanted and then argue about it or ignore it so I did myself a favour and said I was too old for it and she didn't need to bother).

I don't even know why I'm so hurt. But I am.

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