I let down my best friend

[Mrshagstone]

I found I was unable to help out at a concert so texted my friend 4 days before the show to say I had rescheduled work so couldn't help. We ususally text not call so this was normal. I received a "thankyou for letting me know " and then have not heard anything from her since then. I know her well enough to realise how annoyed she was from her message.
I haven't been in touch since and neither has she. I think I've fuked it . I went to message on Friday after wine o clock but held back. As afraid maybe? How do you retrieve a hurt friend? Help!

Be honest I think.

A text back apologising again and understand that she might be upset. Tell her that you are sorry that you added to her stress at the show. MPerhaps say that you'd really like to take he for a coffee to apologise properly when she's ready.

Try phoning her to speak to her. If she doesn't pick up, then email her?
It would have been nicer if you had phoned her to say you couldn't help out too instead of dropping her a text.

Thankyou for your useful thoughts. I must grow a big pair and reiterate my apologies x

So you said you'd help, and then you rescheduled work so that you couldn't help??

Surely the issue here is YOU haven't bothered. You didn't think to text and ask how the event went, if she'd got enough help around that date etc?

I can understand her being a bit inconvenienced if she was relying on your help, but assuming you don't regularly let her down on stuff and had a good and valid reason to not be able to help out, then I think her letting it drag out is a bit over the top and unreasonable. Just message her and apologise again and ask how the show went, no need for the silence to drag on.

Apologise again? (although tbh it doesn't sound like you've apologised at all yet, sounds like your first was just a general 'sorry, something's come up' rather than a 'I'm so sorry to do this to you so last minute...'
Ask it how it went rather than ghosting her?
Buy her a bottle of wine/box of chocolates?
Offer to help next time she needs it with a guarantee you won't back out?