My husband Doesn’t worry about anything

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My husband has openly said he doesn’t want to worry about our daughter who is 20 because he can’t afford to have a heart attack! He is 65 no underlying health problems He goes about his life doing his hobbies meeting friends and working with not a care in the world. Our daughter has been struggling this year at university with her mental health I have done all I can to support but her father it does not touch him! He had an issue with his elderly mother he brushed it off as nothing. He loves for every one to think he is a great guy but I don’t understand how he emotionally detaches himself from any problems. I am the opposite and always want to help and support. I am finding he won’t listen to my concerns.

In purely practical terms, what is the impact of the way he is handling this situation? Is he, for example, refusing to go and pick DD up at the station, or help her get in contact with uni support?

I am wondering if you are by nature someone who worries about other people's situations, which has no benefits, and he is someone who takes the view that worrying doesn't help anyone?

If there is something practical that he can do to help you or DD, then he should - but you can't demand that he worries about a situation he has no power to change.

Being more concerned and worried about being 5 minutes late to meet a friend than taking time to have any consideration or thought for his daughter.

I am by nature caring whereas he doesn’t care about anything unless it directly impacts him personally ie the phone rings and he is watching football he could careless to take the call from his daughter when he knows she is struggling. She loves him dearly. Yet will pick up a call from a friend.