DD now has overnight contact with her Dad. Dad is an abuser but courts decided to progress contact. DD is 6 and hates the overnights.
All week leading up to it she is anxious and tells me not to send her.. it takes a significant amount of effort to talk her down. Sometimes it works, other times she has to be handed over kicking and screaming which is so awful.
As part of a court order I get a short call with DD during her overnight weekend. DD always looks forward to this call.
Her dad missed the last overnight contact because he did not agree to her participating in an activity which crossed 1 hour into his contact time.. I made suggestions for him to come to the event, pick her up from the location or drop her off 1 hour later and the following time she's there overnight drop her off earlier. Less than 24 hours in advance he made threats and demands for me to remove her from her activity. I didn't do this as DD would've been heartbroken. I took DD to her contact after and her dad did not show up.
She's now with her dad this weekend and a couple of hours before the call was due to take place I receive an email to say "due to a demeanor change which was incredibly upsetting to witness I am extremely concerned and the facetime unfortunately cannot go ahead".
Everyone I've spoken to either tells me he's punishing me or DD is upset to have realised she was with him for the weekend and she was likely going to tell me during her call with me so he's prevented it from happening as a result.
I cannot see any logical reason why DD would be upset because of me.. she left me at the handover in ok spirits, I feel like she probably realised she's there overnight and became upset.
Wondering what others thoughts are?