Hello,
I am posting here, as I tried to look information online, but I wasn’t able to find anything relevant.
I have been in a toxic relationship until this Thursday. There have been threats to leave, mental and physical abuse (pulling hair), fights over fights, etc.
We have an 1 year old baby. On Thursday, because the baby was being a baby, shouting at some point, after the father had informed me “he was having a headache and going to lie down”. He came and probably smacked the baby (I was just in the kitchen, to drink water), as he started crying after and when questioned, he stated “he might as well have reasons to shout”, the fight started from there and he left, after begging him for an hour or so not to leave. He only packed a bag with essential things, saying he would be back for the rest of his stuff the following day. But he didn’t.
long story short, yes, I feel deceived, betrayed, lied to, hurt, but also relieved. No more walking on shells, as he was disturbed by ANY baby noise, always shushing him, don’t do that, don’t do the other one. I know difficult times are ahead, as a single mother, but I also know I will do it, as I have to.
My question would be: should, or could this be reported to the police? I am not planning to get him back, God forbid, I understood that someone leaves when they no longer want something/someone, I am just thinking of the future, in terms of seeing the child, or controlling where I go/move with the baby. I have to say that all his care has been my duty, all the necessities, like clothing, food, toys, etc, as I am getting the child benefit (sic). I don’t need child support from him, I don’t need anything, as I only know how we lived together, how stingy he has been toward us, and how he was not towards his other children. I experienced these separatisms, so please don’t judge me…
I am working (recently resumed after maternity leave), but even now, he left without caring if the baby needs anything, if I can provide for him, not a phone call to enquire about the baby. And I believe this should be somewhere on records if he wakes up later that he wants to have contact with the baby…
Not to mention that when we were fighting and not talking, after, he was also ignoring the baby, saying we are one and the same person to him…
Pleaee advise if you know/experienced something similar. Thank you!