unsure of new guy

[Littlepinkstarsbyradish]

Hi all

so i've been seeing this guy for a few months now, he's really sweet but is only 1 year out of a marriage that ended badly so I know he's obvs got some stuff to work through and we're taking it slowly

Before we started dating he was seeing another woman, and they have remained firm (best?) friends and talk most days. He has said previously that the timing was wrong with them, and that they might have made a go of it if they'd met later. I've met her, and she's great. i really like her.

I just cant get comfortable with his comments, and am worried that down the line they will rekindle? is that my insecurity? or is that a reasonable worry?

for context - i am often very insecure in relationships, so i dont always trust my emotional reactions. He has been nothing but lovely so far, cooking meals, making effort and meeting my friends etc

It could just as easily mean neither of them wanted more committment at that time.

I think you are wasting your time.
The statement about timing is telling.

He could likely go another round with her.
It is also likely she is hoping they will too.
Protect yourself OP.

I wouldn't be comfortable with all of this. He doesn't like being alone and is a bit of a drama queen.

Close friends with an ex is fine if the romantic connection is done and dusted or they met and never really hit it off that way, not if it could have maybe worked a few months later. He should have at least kept that to himself out of tact if he was certain the ship had sailed.

Messy and I think he plays a big role in perpetuating the mess. I would walk away.