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Second Date ?

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tallulahbriant · 26/07/2024 20:59

I met a boy last Friday - he is one of my friend's colleagues.

We just hit it off, there was an energy between us, we spent the whole night chatting.

We then went on a date on Wednesday and met up today.

He is 31 and just got out of an 8 year relationship, 4 months ago, however has been on the dating apps for a month or so.

I asked him on our last date what he's looking for (whether hook up etc) as i am 28 and 8 months single and hook ups are not my thing. He said yeah he wants a girlfriend and he literally couldn't see how he could not like me thinks i'm pretty etc.

Today we went for a walk and he said that he now hates hinge because i said how crap it is and he said he now agrees and then i said well maybe you need to use it to hook up as you are recently single and he said you said this on our last date, maybe i will! and he teased me and said we're just two friends hanging out. This confused me a little but i don't know whether he just didn't want to come across too keen... He said let's just see how this goes.

Anyway we planned our next date and he said he's really excited - which i am too we have a lot of fun together.

Also to note, we have only kissed.

OP posts:
TipsyJoker · 26/07/2024 21:12

Take it slow. Very slow. He has just got out of a very long relationship. You don’t want to be a rebound. Especially as you seem like the kind of girl who doesn’t go in for hook up culture. I would be very careful if I were you. Maybe don’t put all your eggs in one basket and continue to date other guys too. It sounds like you’re already quite fixated with this guy and you don’t really know him at all yet.

FloydPink · 26/07/2024 21:52

Its only a couple of dates - generally after 3-5 is when you talk about being exclusive, long term etc... Go with it and have that chat and see if he after a serious one.

As for him moving too soon - we are all different. Some need years to 'repair and rebuild', others are ready in no time. After my 22 year relationship ended I was ready to date pretty much immediately - started a long relationship within 5 months. Men tend to move on quicker - for some 3 months will be fine, for others 6 months too soon

Nibo63 · 25/09/2024 09:05

I've just finished a 20 years relationship after my ex decided she going to leave me because my daughter who she never like decided my ex doesn't want her at her wedding

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