Sex after baby

[Rose1999]

I'm 7 months postpartum and yet to have (or want) sex. Is that as shocking as I've been told it is?

Note : my pregnancy and birth went well.

Not strange at all especially if you're bfing.

Had a horrific first birth tried after 8 ish weeks and that ended in tears. We didn't try again until around 9 ish months post partum and then only once a month or so for the next 18 months. I just didn't have any sex drive to speak of.

Second baby and I was ready 4 wks pp, he wasn't! And we tried and it was great after 7 weeks ish and been at it like rabbits since. Dc2 is 14m now.

Both were combined fed for similar amounts of time. But second time around I wasn't as tired and he was doing way more to help and I was in a different frame of mind.

Do what works and feels best for you.

No it’s not and anybody trying to shame you for it and make you think there’s something abnormal about it is gaslighting you for their own selfish wants. Don’t do anything until you’re ready, that’s not consent. Being pressured into something is not consent. And if it’s not consensual then it’s assault.

It’s not unusual at all and you should not feel shamed or pressured into it until you’re ready. I felt not just no libido but actually repulsed by the idea of sex for a long time after having children (probably due to breastfeeding).

Told by who? Your DP by any chance?