What’s ideal about of sex for you?

[Justtryingtofitin]

Just that really - in your ideal world, as little or often as youd like, how often would you want to have sex?

edit: title should say amount!

2-3 times a week, unless I'm ovulating and then every day. That would be the dream for me.

I would like 4-5 times a week. Potentially daily. But happens once every 10 days or so.

Completely cycle dependent for me - the 2 weeks mid cycle I want it daily, occasionally several times per day, but the week either side of that I pull a face of sheer disgust if DH even thinks about putting that thing anywhere near me. So I suppose on average 14 days of the month?

Can I ask if you're on HRT? I'd always assumed that sex drive declines after menopause but maybe not!

Maybe about once a month? I’m clearly in the minority 😳

Once or twice a month for us. I could probably do more but around kids and co sleeping and forward planning I honestly can't be arsed. I enjoy it when it happens but I don't need it to feel happy and secure in my relationship.
When I'm ovulating I definitely want it more, the rest of the months I'm not fussed.

Once a month. Female, 43. No kids.
I definitely wanted it more when I was younger but my libido has been dropping since my early 30s.
Also to add that I can’t orgasm just from penetration and the pleasure doesn’t increase the longer the sex is, so that’s perhaps why I don’t want it more often.

About 4 or 5 times a week. I like to orgasm at least once daily but that's through masturbation in addition to the sex. When single I could go without sex for longer periods but I could not go without a climax.

If he can’t keep up, is it a fitness problem?

My ex husband was extremely obese and made zero effort with me. My expectations were 1-2 times a week minimum. I took a look around the dating pool here in Texas and I think most of the men who are over 40/50 who struggle to perform, have this struggle because they are so out of shape.

Does he have a normal BMI? Can he run 5 miles? If the answer is no to both of these, that is most likely his problem. A simple blood test will show if his hormone levels are off. Healthy men are active 2-3 times a week in their 50s and 60s. Anything less than this isn’t normal.

You spelt craic properly ❤️

lol I’m Irish

I have sex 3 times a day currently. Between working and housework etc.
9 months into a new relationship and spent 14 years in one where the sex was shocking and zero affection

I dont need it 3 times a day, it just comes over us 🤣

@SallyWD i am on HRT!

BUT

I was like this before I started it, although HRT has given me more lubrication. I am also on testosterone which is the best thing EVER! Makes my orgasms as intense as when I was in my 20's.

I started HRT about 4 years after menopause as I was feeling awful, which must have been a virus as I was feeling well again after I'd been to see GP and before I actually started HRT.

Didn't notice difference to my sex drive, but my overall mood! Life changing! I felt more "me" than I had since puberty. Depression, suicidal thoughts all disappeared!! I'd rather lose 10 years of my life than stop HRT.

I must have lived all my adult life blighted by out of sync hormones.

As someone who didn't take the contraceptive pill and very rarely take medication I was adamant I wasn't going on HRT. Then I read somewhere that if you were diabetic you'd take insulin and you'd take hormone medication for thyroid problems, why wouldn't you take Oestrogen to replace what your body can't make anymore. Mind blown!

It completely changed my life! I just wish there was more research into depression and hormone imbalance in women.

Sorry more info than you asked for!

Exactly the same here!

40 something here. Taking into account life’s other commitments (work etc), probably 2-3 times per week. And if l’m going to be totally honest, not always with the same person.

Depends what in an ideal world means.

If it's a new world I can create where I don't have young kids and don't work then 3 times a day.

If it's as my life currently then 3 times a week. I don't have enough energy to keep up with my own desires ha.

I can so relate to this!

That's very interesting thank you. I'm not yet on HRT but am keeping an open mind about it.

None and that's perfect for me. I'm postmenopausal and even before the menopause my partner and I had stopped. We've been together since we were 18 and it dropped off at about 40. There's plenty of physical affection just nothing sexual. It works brilliantly for both of us!

Daily if it's the sex to die for...

This made me laugh!

Three/four times a week.

My husband works away sometimes so we then 'get together' more before and after he is away!

Sex drive has never diminished and I've been through the menopause years ago.

3x a day? How long is each session? Is it vigorous horny sex or slow sex?

I prefer it in the morning or during the day as I get so tired at night and can't be arsed. However with both of us working that doesn't work out too well!

I'm most horny at the end of my period and for about a week after and then it drops off a cliff so probably 4/5 times in that window.

Husband would obviously like it daily.

As am I! I live in England and no one knows what I'm on about when I message this :)