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Am I in the wrong?

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Anonymous129566 · 26/07/2024 09:19

My partner works 5 days a week and makes me feel awful for it everyday. I don’t work but I am a full time student. We also have a child together of which has autism so I care for him also.

Everyday he wakes up miserable and brings the whole house down with him. Everyone can feel his mood and then blames us and says that he can feel our tension. He has a cold this week and wants to book the day of work, I told him due to financial reasons and him not having anymore holiday days that he would have to go without luxuries such as tobacco etc. This then caused a massive argument on how I should go without items (I buy nothing for myself each week) and how it’s his money and he can do what he wants with it.

I also forgot to say he didn’t have a job for 3 years and I provided for him the entire time. He then told me to get a job and that I’m a lazy b*tch.

I do everything around the house and garden. On the weekend he says it is his time off and he’s not doing anything because he works all week. He never takes our child out anywhere and never comes with me when I do.

I know that he is a waste of space and I should leave him. I however wouldn’t be able to cope financially by myself.

Would you say I’m in the wrong for asking him to go without luxuries for the week to make up for missing days pay?

OP posts:
Purplecatshopaholic · 26/07/2024 09:20

You are in the wrong for putting up with this shit. HTH

arethereanyleftatall · 26/07/2024 09:21

Are you sure you wouldn't be able to cope financially? Have you included child maintenance and all you're entitled to benefits wise?
How much longer are you studying for?

I'd start doing whatever you need to do to be financially ready to leave him. And make sure there's no chance of another baby.

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