I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 33. We have been together for 2 years.
When we first started dating, I told him about my family history of early menopause and PCOS and that I would like to have kids before too late. He told me we were on the same page. I also had a divorce previously as my ex husband changed his mind about having kids (we had other issues but this was the main one that made me go ahead and I told my boyfriend this years later when we met).
Fast forward to 3 months ago, he realised that he has too much childhood trauma and started therapy to address these. It was already causing issues in the relationship as he wasn't mentally very stable but I stuck by him as I know it's hard and I love him so much.
Last weekend he sat me down and said that the therapy has been challenging and it might take years for him to get to a place where he feels comfortable to have kids. It really broke my heart to hear this but I understand and appreciate that he shouldn't when he's going through this anyway.
He told me 'what if it takes 5 years to address my issues and even then I decide I don't want kids?' I have no answer to that as I love him so much but if that does happen, I will have wasted my valuable child bearing years.
My head says one thing but heart another. I don't want to have kids for sake of having them but it's also very important to me not to trap myself in a situation where I cannot have them at the end. Is it worth sticking through or find a stable partner to settle down finally?