My partner and I have lived in our current home for nearly 4 years and 2 weeks ago he decided that he wanted to sell it. As he doesn’t really like talking to people he asked me to arrange the valuations which I did and he also asked me to arrange viewings of properties we liked which I have done.
When we decided to sell we said we would not move too far out of the area so our daughter can continue to attend her school as she has 2 years left before she goes to Secondary school and we didn’t want to disrupt her education.
Recently he has started sending me properties that are outside of the town we live in because they are cheaper which I do understand. When I mentioned about the school he said that she would have to move school which is not what we agreed in the first place. He continued to send me properties in that area which I said I wasn’t sure I wanted to live in so he got annoyed and told me that I had to make the decision where we live but had a little dig at me about the properties being cheaper in the area he wanted to be in.
When I said that my preference would be to remain close to our child’s school like we agreed he said fine but continued to make digs about the difference in house prices.
He also said that it was my decision about what Estate agent we put our house on the market with as I have spoken to them. When I said which one I was happy to go with and when should I contact them he asked me whether I actually wanted to sell the house. I said that I thought it was what he wanted to do to which he has now said “ I didn’t actually say we were definitely going to be doing it”. My daughter asked him the other day whether we would definitely be moving and he said yes!!
he has said that where we live is my decision which I am wary of as I found out recently that he never wanted to buy the house we currently live in and his friend told me that my partner blames me for us buying this house in the first place as he never wanted to buy it but never said anything at the time!
I arranged a viewing recently on a house we liked and the day before the estate agent called to say the owners had an offer which they were going to accept. I informed my partner and he said that because we procrastinated about it, we delayed viewing it. This is not true as I arranged the viewing the same day that he informed me about it.
it is causing me stress as I feel like the decision has been put on me and if I make the wrong one, he will blame me like he has before and I will never hear the end of it.
I am sorting all this out whilst working full time and looking after my daughter so I am a bit stressed especially when he said that he didn’t say we were definitely going to be moving even though he told our daughter we were!
Am I being unreasonable and stressing out for no reason?