Breaking off an affair

[Almostthere123]

Just that really. Tried blocking, no-contact, counselling. Still pining for a loser who offers me nothing rather than a comfortable life with a kind man. Nearing retirement and never thought this would ever happen to me. Other man is divorced.

I take it you have been having an affair with the divorced man and have realised he's not asking you to leave your partner to be with him? If your cheating on your partner then you must be unhappy with him,maybe you need to decide to either sort that relationship out first or leave both of them.

@FlowerBee62 He has never asked me to be with him which hurts or told me he loves me. I know that I have been incredibly selfish and hurtful.

Just read your post again Op and realise you may not have a partner but are being strung along by a divorced man! Sorry for confusion. I think it all depends on circumstances around the relationship you had with him to know what to do going forward,but if he offers you breadcrumbs I would keep him blocked and carry on ,don't waste any more time on a person like this.

I think OP is married and has been having an affair with a divorced man. I'm not really sure what the point of the post is.

Yes I am married.

It is the word RATHER which confuses this post.

People could be reading it as OTHER.

Op is your ap offering you nothing and your h is kind and offers you a comfortable life ?

If so, tell your husband about the affair, he deserves to make his mind up about you. He may not think you are kind, he may not wish to contribute making your life comfortable anymore and may not wish to live his life with a liar.

He also may not want to share his wife sexually and not have full autonomy of his own sexual health and body.

I have no interest in the rehabilitation of your morals, they are long gone.