Hi . After 20 years of marriage I have a serious problem . For last 9 years I had anxiety and depression issues . My wife was my help but now is different. She allowed another man to be close . I didn't know they talked a lot and like she is saying for last 3 months was there for her. They had a kiss. She lied to me that nothing is going on that she need time because she don't know what she feel as and need time but I'm the same time she was talking to him and got close, way to close. I found out . Contact with him is no more but she still saying she don't know what she feel and she is afraid that she gives this marriage so much that she might have nothing left. We agreed I give her space and time because I still love her so much and I know she is the one for life. Affection towards me is minimal , there is no regret for her betrayal , but I still accepted that . She don't want to go to therapy or couple counselling because in her words she have to figure it out her emotions first. We have to beautiful girls 14 and 16 tears old. I love her and I want to fight for this relationship and family. Am I stupid or I'm doing right thing?