Inviting a date back to your house when your adult child is there....

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Morning

Just starting a new style of dating journey, go me, and historically have never, ever, ever considered inviting a date back to my house unless my house is empty.

However, my eldest (nearly 20) is now living full time with me and so I have next to no time alone at my house. Tips on navigating this?

Do I go ahead and invite someone back if I feel inclined, or is it wrong to even consider doing this....?

Anyone been through this?

Thanks 😁

A date/one night stand, no. Someone you have been in a relationship with for a while, if you want to.

Do you have rules for your adult child around this? Whatever you choose has to be the same for both of you imho

I have been in a relationship for over a year - I have 23 year old & 18 year old who have both met him and like him but are not comfortable with him staying over yet. So by mutual agreement he hasn't. A bit frustrating as be are both in our 50's - and I think they are being slightly unreasonable - but its their home too. I would advise speaking to her, be open and honest and ask her opinion (not permission though, I have fallen into this trap!)

I would be beyond embarrassed to do this!

A full on relationship partner - yes

A stranger - no!

If you’re looking to hook up then go to his or get a hotel room. Don’t let your child, albeit an adult be privy to your private sexual encounters. It’s not like they wouldn’t know what was going on. Would you really want them to be thinking about that and feeling probably grossed out that their mums getting groovy in the next room with some random guy they don’t know? Put yourself in your child’s shoes. For me, it would be a no. However, I hope you have a great time on your date and that the guy is a good guy.

Agree with PP. Once you’re in a relationship yes, early dates no no no no no

Get an Airbnb or a hotel if you can’t go back to his

I wouldn't like my adult son inviting random dates over and I wouldn't do this either, go back to his if he lives alone or hotel, no relationship is certain to last but I'd want to know them at least a few months first and be official before bringing them home.

Thanks guys

TBH I don't mind at all if they bring someone back to our house, because I'd rather that than them feeling like they have nowhere to go.

But yeah, I get the ick factor involved when it's the other way round, so will continue to not do this!

I have no problem in bringing someone back if in a relationship. Mine are teens and am sure in a few years they will want to do the same. You still need to live your life.

It's an absolutely not for me
My 21 year old is home from uni and I'm currently only meeting my FWB in hotels because it's just too awkward for all otherwise

Under what circumstances could the phrase 'it's gotta be done', here?! 'Even though it's uncomfortable for my adult child, I've gotta fuck this bloke!'

We're here for a good time... so blow other people's feelings!!

What a shit attitude to have towards housemates, let alone your own kids.