had a row - feels so good to stand up for myself!

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DH and I just had a huge row over something really trivial (cleaning). I'm feeling a bit under the weather with a bad cold - I didn't get much sleep last night so I feel a bit groggy.

He told me to f off and I told him that I cannot and will not put up with being spoken to like that. He said a few more choice words and went out. Thank God the DC were out.

See, I used to hate any kind of confrontation but now I realise I have to show my DC that it's not ok to tolerate disrespect from anyone, and also for my own self respect. I'm finally growing a backbone

Just had to get that off my chest... anyone else empathise?

Well I always do stick up for myself and just wanted to say Well Done! If you don't respect yourself who will?

thanks

I usually burst into tears when we row, but I'm not sure what's going on because this time I didn't even come close to it! Maybe I've just reached my tolerance limit? I just don't even want to see or hear him right now, once upon a time I would have been pleading with him on the phone

This might sound so silly to some MNers but I feel a little bit stronger inside. I don't know why I was ever a doormat, my mum sure isn't

I'm not saying that he's abusive, just a sulky git

Well sulking can be abusive sometimes... Whatever he is, you stand your ground and don't be a doormat anymore. Let this be a new begining

Well done VV, the more you stand up for yourself the easier it gets! I used to be one of those people who burst into tears if someone so much as looked at me with a frown, well, not any more! It is very liberating when you realise that instead of letting what other people say or do affect you negatively, you can just brush it off and tell them you won't tolerate that kind of behaviour directed towards you.

My dad always used to say 'don't let the bastards grind you down'. Never mind your fear or anxiety, if you are right, say you are right. Congratulations on finding the courage to stand up for yourself! Sometimes that is really hard.