Obsessive dreams of ex

[ChimneySweepLiverpool]

Please be kind as I know this sounds pretty pathetic

I was in a turbulent relationship with someone for many years. He always came back and I would take him back. I can't be sure if I miss him or just his attention/validation but I think about him far too often. With every phone notification I will wonder if its him again but I think this time that he's really gone

Lately I dream about him every night. Dreams of being back together. Long complicated dreams over the course of the whole night and I'm even getting night sweats from it

I feel pretty stupid about it and I am trying to move on, but I really feel down. Any advice is appreciated x

It sounds like your brain/mind is trying to process what happened and also to process and prepare you for what might happen if he reappears again.

It doesn't necessarily mean your subconcscious is desperate to have him back. it doesn't mean he's good for you, and it doesn't mean that you're meant for each other. It's just your brain trying to figure out what the hell was that? And how do I act if it crops up again - as you probably expect it to.

But if you DO expect him to reappear and get into it again, that keeps you trapped in a negative past if you haven't fully decided that that is it, no more ever. Can you block him in various ways so he can't contact you even if he feels like it?

Its been months and we've had seven years of him coming back, always sooner than this. I think this time he's actually gone. I got a lot of validation/self esteem boosts from that

You need to write your dreams down then look up dream definitions. Block this man on everything. Practice mindfulness.

I think you're both probably right. If I block I won't have to wonder anymore