I broke up with him so he booked us a holiday

[Ame1924]

Hi guys, I left my ex a few months ago, since then he hasn't left me alone, he's not accepting the relationship is over. Calling me pathetic and a weirdo everytime I remind him we are together. He's making my life hell. He needs go get some self respect! Everytime he picks the baby up he starts crying and getting emotional saying he misses me etc

(Before anyone suggests blocking him, I have a 6 month old baby with him it's not really an option)

His most recent stunt is booking us a holiday. He's shown me the proof of this with screen shots, I'm absolutley fuming! He's bot respecting what I want and doing his best to force a relationship

I dont know what to do anymore, I feel bad that if I don't go he will miss out on over a grand but I don't want to go! I don't know what possessed him to do such a stupid thing!

Any advice

You’re not saying if you were married or not or if your ex has PR for your baby.
i think you need to sort out official contact asap. If possible not at your house (even
though with a baby so young, it might be harder).
And I would report the harassement to the Police.

He sounds seriously not ok. And the fact his behaviour is escalating is a worry.

We were not married, just boyfriend and girlfriend and yes unfortunately he has PR

i know right bonkers that I let someone so unstable have PR

can i assume you no longer live together? this is controlling and coercive behaviour, you've admitted that this is why you end the relationship in the first place yet he continues to do it.

you need to send a very clear message to him, one that tells him you are happy for him to be involved in his childs life, and that you will only discuss the child with him and nothing else. if needs must get a 2nd phone or a separate email address and communite via that, and only about the child.

and personally i'd probably respond to the holiday booked by saying something like 'well that was a silly thing to do now wasn't it.. what a waste of money'.

speak to the police or another other organisation to help.

Tell him (by email or text so that there is a record) that he is not to contact you about anything other than arrangements for seeing your child. If he carries on doing it, report it to the police. Harassment is a crime, but you need to be able to show that you have told him the contact is unwelcome.

If he is charged with harassment, he might plead not guilty, in which case you will need to go to court and give evidence. The court can make a restraining order, prohibiting him from contacting you, if he is convicted-or in some cases, even if he is not convicted.

This guy is just proving to you that you were right to end the relationship.
As a priority tell him that you nor your child are going on this holiday.
Grey rock him as much as possible. Ignore any communication that is not directly relating to your child.
Tell him that you will only communicate via email about child care arrangements. Set up a separate email account to use soley for this purpose. Then everything will be easy to keep a record of.

Realise that his reaction to your decision to split - is on him. You are not responsible for his behaviour.

He is trying to control and abuse you from a distance. Keep reminding yourself that you did the right thing to separate.

If you haven't already got a parental agreement in place then get one organised. He is your childs father so he will continue to be part of your life - but you can do all you can to keep that at a distance and eventually he will leave you in peace.

If he doesn't other posters have given you advice about involving police etc.