I just wanted some good advice and good words I suppose. I left in 2019 after 12 years of what I was told by my therapist at the time really quite bad emotional abuse.
After I left I was in a spin, I’d completely erased my identity. Emotionally I’m doing ok and I’ve worked a lot on why I stayed in this type of relationship.
What I still struggle is this sense of identity. As it grows and I join all the parts of myself together I am not as nice as I used to be. I don’t have the time for people anymore, especially those unsupportive people who don’t allow people to have these difficult parts to themselves. I am and I know quite obviously very different to the person I used to be. I see the world very differently and I struggle to be in friendships and family groups with people who have no idea about who I am and the things I’ve had to go through. Or my like I should say people who judge other people’s reactions. I have so much more empathy for those now who struggle. I don’t talk about it but I struggle to relate now. I have this inner story and I feel I live a life that tries to ignore it for the benefit of those around me.
Id this normal?