Suppose I just want to get this off my chest.
I have a lovely husband - caring, kind, successful, attractive etc - and two young kids. We both work full time and life is busy.
Over the last few years we’ve let our relationship slip. We don’t make much time for us, we rarely show each other affection we hardly ever have sex (I don’t find sex with him particularly enjoyable but that’s probably a whole other story). This has never really been vocalised by either of us or addressed in any way so no idea how he’s feeling (he hates confrontation/ talking about feelings, so I’m reluctant to bring it up).
Maybe this situation is not uncommon when you have young kids but I think perhaps I do need to do something to salvage it.
What’s really got me thinking is that I have a good male friend who has been in my life for many years (longer than my husband even). There have been feelings there from both sides but timings mean we’ve never acted on them (apart from one drunken snog many many years ago). We don’t see each other very often but whenever we do these feelings resurface and there’s a lot of sexual tension. It reminds me that I don’t seem to have this with my husband. I’m not going to have an affair with this man because I don’t want to ruin my marriage and destroy my family but I do fantasise about him more than I should.
Does anyone have any advice about how to get my marriage back on track?