Dating help needed!!

[CM97]

So I'm mid 50's and met someone on line 7 weeks ago. Due to travel with work, living a couple of hours apart from each other and teenage kids, we've only met 3 times. We message everyday day and chat. It's all going well... but my previous relationship was with a narcissist and I had a very anxious attachment style.

How do I stop worrying that we haven't fixed a date to see each other again/over thinking how it's going?

What is a "normal" amount of contact at this stage? I now recognise love bombing, but it's hard to tell whether this feels slow because it's normal, or because he's not love bombing me.

What's stopping you from fixing a date? I hate that anxious feeling too, so I've had to be proactive in trying to prevent it. I'm in my 50s, having met someone 3 months ago online, so not dissimilar to you. Towards the end of every date I now suggest when we could meet next or I message afterwards to ask what he thinks about meeting here or doing that. It shouldn't always be down to me, and it isn't always, but I prefer to do that for some certainty.

The guy I'm seeing also has a teenager and he doesn't see a problem in leaving them unsupervised for long enough for us to have a date. If you both work too, would it be possible to say, for instance, that you'll see each other every Sunday afternoon? If once a week isn't possible, is this relationship ever going to go anywhere? You may be better with someone more local who doesn't have dependants.

Thanks. That's really good advice. I am prob overthinking it but you are right, if we can't manage once a week it isn't likely to go anywhere and I don't want to waste my time.