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Anyone else feel the same way?

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BabyUxX · 22/07/2024 21:10

I have been together with my partner for nearly 4 years in October. He is a great dad. But, I am finding myself becoming more and more frustrated/unhappy with my relationship, he just doesn't make effort with me or anything any more, he doesn't kiss me and when he does its a peck, whenever we have sex he just tells me to ' bend over ' that's all it ever is, just a quicky. Theirs no passion any more no affection and it's really making me unhappy, I just feel used after we have sex, he doesn't cuddle me after he will just say night and turn the other way. He goes on at me over the littlest things, I went to my friends house when the children were at school, he said why am I going out if I have chores to do in the house? I literally always do chores. I'm a mum of 4 and it's challenging and now I'm starting to feel fed up.

He has started drinking aswell, he's always drank beer but recently it's getting more and I'm getting so tired of smelling it on him or him telling me to have a drink, I really don't want too, I just want to feel happy again.
Theirs a guy on the school run whom always says hello and speaks to me and its actually nice to have abit of attention even if it means nothing, I just want to feel excitement again!
Is any of this normal? Will it get better?

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Justkidding678 · 22/07/2024 21:19

Not normal, won’t get better easily. You cannot settle for this. It is soul destroying

cupcaske123 · 22/07/2024 21:23

He doesn't respect you and he's taking you for granted. Telling you to go back and do chores is a joke. I'm assuming he doesn't lift a finger around the house.

Please don't subject yourself to anymore of this.

LocalHobo · 22/07/2024 21:28

4 DC and only 4 years since your relationship began? I can only imagine how exhausted both of you must be.
I would suggest couple therapy to ascertain what both of you need and wish for in your partnership.

mycatsanutter · 22/07/2024 21:40

Have you spoken to him about how his behaviour is making you feel ?

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