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Insecure friends dragging me down, WWYD?

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rosieth · 22/07/2024 21:01

My friend is a sweet person deep down, but she's very insecure. When we were teens it was just the usual stuff like "am I skinny enough?" "Does this boy like me?" Etc and even then I found her a bit annoying but I put up with it.

Now we're older, we are both married, I have 2 kids and she has 1. I saw her the other day for her birthday, gave her pressies etc but she seemed more interested in talking about other people and what they were doing and it made me cringe, I'm feeling like I need a break from her:

I'll try and describe what she's like to show the level of insecurity -

  • she is hyper aware of any holidays anyone goes on and if they had bad weather or if the kids behaved badly so it ruined their holiday
  • she has to have a flash car and will get rid of what she has after 2 years despite telling me she can't afford another one, then makes out it's saving her money and the monthly payment has gone down
  • she heard I started running so she made out that she'd done couch to 5k before but got bored of it
  • if someone's kid has a toy that her kid doesn't she will either say that toy is rubbish or she'll say that she was aware that toy existed but that was the ONLY one she didn't buy her DD

The list goes on. It's such a shame because she's a nice person, but just so insecure and aware of everyone else, I'm starting to wonder if she's happy with her DH.
WWYD?

OP posts:
connemarailoveyou · 22/07/2024 22:43

Jealous

cupcaske123 · 22/07/2024 22:54

She doesn't sound that bad just a bit irritating. Perhaps you've just grown apart.

sentfrmmyiphone · 22/07/2024 22:57

i dont think any of what you say makes her sound insecure? it does sound like shes jealous and a bit irritating.

perhaps as has been said, now you are both older, have families etc, you have started to go your separate ways.

you wont change her.. so either put up with it and take what she says with a pinch of salt and an eye roll.. or distance yourself

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