Hubby taking kids on holiday

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Hi, my husband is taking my kids on holiday with his family for 7 nights this summer, we are married and still together. I haven't really been invited as it's a villa and all the nephews and my brother in law will be there and me and my brother in law don't talk really (,historical weird Indian heritage type drama, very boring) hubby knew it would be uncomfortable for me and i have said this but still agreed to go knowing that I would say no, he has completely disregarded me. My kids are excited, don't want them to miss out, made me feel sad and lonely, what will I do for 7 days without them? They're making memories without me

I wouldn’t let a dispute with my BIL stop me from going on holiday with my DH and my own children!

Is it too late to say you’ll go?

Is it more of a boys trip or is the whole family going?

My mother in law and husbands sister are going too @RebelliousStarrChild

Don't think it's too late, it's a villa so only have to pay for flights. Maybe I should take the opportunity to do something nice for myself, have a little spa week or something. I think I'm more bothered about my hubby just going off and saying him and boys would go knowing I would feel uncomfortable 😕 @MsMarple

If you went would it cause any tension?

@GuinnessBird yes I think so, the situation is that my husband and his brothers wife fell out before we met and have not spoken properly for over 15 years, when I came on the scene me and her were fine but the underlying tension between him and her caused issues and we drifted apart, her son (my husband nephew) is very sensitive and goes out of his way not to speak to me (potentially his mum has told him not to speak to us?not sure) he is 15, I don't want to go knowing that he (his mum isn't coming) will feel anxious or weird about it, he's still a child. No issues with my inlaws or husbands sister, I've been on holiday with them lots. Especially as it's a villa nowhere to go off alone really, I don't want him to feel awkward, that would make me feel bad

I don’t think it’s weird your Dh is taking the kids on holiday without you. I take the dc on holiday alone and Dh is taking eldest to France for 2 weeks for a sport holiday that the rest of us have no interest in.

But I’d be annoyed to not be invited because of family drama. I wouldn’t want to go either and I’d be thrilled with a week totally off! But I’d be pissed Dh didn’t stick up for me and say no if I wasn’t invited because I wasn’t wanted. That’s very different than just holidaying alone with the dc without you.

@mindutopia yes that's what bothered me too, he was like, "You're invited" knowing I would never go and my mother in law also didn't tell me I was invited and welcome, I did ask dh if he could go for maybe 4 nights then we could go somewhere as a family, he said how would I feel if he turned around and said that to me if i went on holiday with my family, but I'd never take the kids away without him, he's also been on several holidays with his friends, I never have, I feel stupid and used, writing it down makes me realise what a dick he is and he's been really out if order over the years, 😥