Could you share happy stories after a breakup?

[malvas]

Hey everyone,

I’m going through a breakup (once again), and feeling really despaired and lonely. I’m “only” 28, I know I have time to meet someone, and I have been single plenty of time – it’s not that I don’t know how to be alone. But I just really yearn for a good, healthy partnership, which I right now feel like might never happen.

Could you share happy stories of life after breakups? I could use some inspiration and encouragement to see that it’s possible.

Thank you 💚

I broke up from my last ex who was very coercive and abusive and stole money from me and my family several times over the 7 years we were together. Yes I should have ended it as soon as he started to show his true colours but I just did not have the courage to end it until an ex friend told me stuff he'd been doing behind my back (she is his sister and we remained friends for 7 years after till she decided to cut me off). My boyfriend now I had met not long into the relationship with the ex and we were friends for that whole time his brother is with the ex friend (weird I know that I went from friends brother to her boyfriends brother) and he was always supportive of me if I was having a hard time. I realised I had developed feelings for him and asked if he wanted to be more than friends and he did we have now been together almost 7 and a half years and are very happy together

ExDP of 10 years came home from a trip abroad, announced that he'd met someone else and was moving out that very day so he could be with her.

After the initial shock passed, I got my ass into planning mode. Managed to buy him out of the house we jointly owned and replaced him with a lodger. A few months later I signed up for a dating app.

It's now 18 months on from the break up and I have been with a very lovely new man from the dating app for over a year, I still own the house and due to the income from the lodger I'm actually better off financially than I was before. New DP is an absolute breath of fresh air and I am a million times better off for having met him.

I split up about 25 years ago. 22 years ago I met someone, we have now been married for 20 years and we are both very happy.

Thank you all :) that’s encouraging

It’s so difficult to forget that there is hope in the future. My ex wasn’t a terrible person or anything, but he just wasn’t mature enough, and i was getting more and more depressed being with him and putting up with certain things and attitudes. We tried for a long time but it was getting worse and worse. But now, after breaking up, I quickly forget the bad things and just long for his sweetness.
Oh well

Any more stories will be very welcome :) thank you!

Try not to think of life as an escalator that you get on at the bottom, meet a man, get engaged, married, have kids 1 and 2, and live happily ever after as you go up it. The end.

Get on with living your life and see what happens without making a man the focus of it. We are living twice as long, with luck, as we did when marriage was invented so a few long term relationships, of different qualities, are to be expected. Stop waiting to be chosen, and making that the goal.

I'm divorced and now very happily partnered and engaged, and have had a colourful rather than traditional love life and I wouldn't change it.

Gold duster is right.. I had a few relationships when younger with men I now realise were awful and totally wrong for me. Some sad and messy break ups. Some absolute heartbreak. I met my husband at 38. He is completely different to any of my previous partners. A lovely man. I'm very happy and we have been together 22 years.

I split up with my ex when dd1 was three months old as he had an affair. When I was 30 , I met a newly single friend of a friend and we have been together for 20 years. So it can happen.

Thank you everyone for the stories and the tips 💚 I do want to make a happy life for myself and not focus solely on whether I have a partner. But sometimes it‘s just really frustrating! I‘ve been on my own plenty of time. I just really wanted that feeling of being in a good relationship, finally.