Self confidence- can anyone advise

[Clairedaz]

I have recently had a d&c due to a mmc, my boobs hare horrible my stomach has more overhang than the alps etc...

DH loves me and before we used to have an active and fun (dressing up etc) sex life, but now I hate myself that I have no desire to let him see me.

From Monday I will start to gradually go back to the gym, but am feeling so low, I know if I explain this to DH he won't understand and don't want to keep moaning about it.

Want to but that zing back into our sex life but don't know how to get over this hurdle.

Do something that makes you feel good. You've been through a rough time, so relax and take things slowly. There's no way you're going to feel amazing right now no matter how perky and tight your boobs and tummy are!

Treat yourself to a nice relaxing day of pampering. Go and get your hair and nails done, maybe even a nice spray tan (fact that tanned skin makes everything look more toned), and buy a nice lingerie outfit from Ann Summers to get back into the swing of dressing up. Something flattering like a babydoll set to cover any bits you aren't too keen on right now. And then set time aside for a nice evening with DH. Just don't put too pressure on yourself, you know he loves you regardless of how rough you might feel right now!

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You are in a good place if you still care enough to do something about it - because the will to change is half the battle. It is so easy to slip into depression, and then it's much harder to change.
I agree that you should do something to make yourself feel good, because good sex is about confidence. As your husband still finds you gorgeous, that's another half of the battle. According to my maths, that's only another quarter to go! Come back and tell us what you did, and if you feel any better. Good luck. Rooting for you

been where you are, definitely talk to your dh about it, he'll probably surprise you. my dh thought it was his fault and he felt miserable, once i'd opened up things got back oon track and he was amazingly supportive

good luck xxx