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Husband has no interest

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Luciam06 · 21/07/2024 22:20

I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, 10 years married. We have 5 children together and things are just so plain and boring. We have recently come back from a weeks holiday where it was just the 2 of us and I noticed him eyeing up other woman in bikinis, thongs, big boobs you name it. It really got to me and I was awfully upset after it but didn’t. Say anything to him. I’m a size 14 so not slim. I have literally begged him for so many years to please pay me some attention but he won’t. We don’t sleep together, he don’t hug me, he don’t kiss me or anything and I’m really starting to get fed up. We had a major bust up over this yesterday and all he said was you need to see a doctor! Like it’s my fault that I want attention from my husband. Our children range from 5-16 but there is a 20 year age gap between us. Am I Being unreasonable? I have asked him to leave on many occasions but he won’t go. This is upsetting me so much that I really can’t be bothered with him anymore

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StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 22:22

Do you want to work on the marriage or do you want him to go?

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/07/2024 22:24

Of course YANBU to be unhappy. YABU to stay with him or ask him to leave. See a lawyer and start filing for divorce but you can’t make him leave a house that’s shared because you want him to.

TheHuntSyndicate · 21/07/2024 22:25

You're a companion. The mother of his children and a housekeeper.

There is no passion or romance.

He doesn't seem like he would be prepared to put in any work to rekindle any interest in you so you have to decide whether to end the relationship or carry on in a cold partnership.

Beckypl · 22/07/2024 07:59

Life is too short op and I don’t say that lightly as I believe in working on things but it sounds soul destroying. End it amicably and live your life, it’s too short to be miserable.

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