Feeling like best friends… with kids :/

[mrsspacedaddy]

I finally told my husband that I felt like we’re friends. I’d been feeling it strongly for a few weeks but the length of time it’s taken to get to this point is years worth of reasons behind it a so it won’t be a quick fix.

Obviously it came as a complete shock to him, which is understandable. He was quite defensive initially but since spoke again and he understands why I’m left with little emotional connection towards him.

I said it like we’re two best friends who decided to have kids and share a house.

im just wondering if anyone else has been through this and what your outcome was/is. Right now, I can’t see that we’ll get back to where we were or get what we need but I think that’s just because of how I feel in the present.

Intimacy and sex life disappeared out the window? Resentment set in?

No, I am still attracted to him, but I am struggling to feel much physically without there being any emotional connection at the moment.

I feel like if I’d left it any longer, the resentment would have started to overtake and we’d be in a much worse position where we/I would start to picks fights in anything and everything etc.

It’s not like nothing has happened to lead to this point, I reached breaking point with the minimal help with our two kids - it feels like an easy life for him rather than for me, like we fit into his schedule if there was time left over. The priorities were all wrong and there’s no deep talk about anything etc.