Just a question for those of you with toxic parents.

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For those of you with toxic parents/family I wondered how you get on with DH/DP's family and if you tell them about it? My PIL have been a saviour for me and are like a mum & dad. My DH has told them everything and they have been understanding. I know everyone might not be so lucky. Also do you tell people about it? I was so sick of pretending i.e. that I missed my family and got on with them. Now I am honest with my friends etc, although I don't openly slag them off, I do say I have a difficult relationship with them. What do you tell your own children?
This thread has been wonderful for me and for those of you have been brave enough to severe contact with toxic parents, good on you! I know it must be hard.

DHs family are the complete opposite to mine which is excellent. DH has explained a bit about my situation to them as necessary, we don't dwell on it but when they ask why I am not getting support from my lot we explain why. Sadly my MIL died just before DD2 was born - a huge loss .

When necessary, I tell other people I don't get on with my family. I rarely, if ever, go into details sometimes I will briefly mention something if it is very relevant to the conversation. In the end, I just try to ignore the situation we have as much as possible or it seems to seep into every part of your life.

With regards to my DCs I am pretending all is fine and rosey atm. In the end they might work it out that things aren't but DC1 is only 3. She does pick up on things but she is too young to understand so I paint a rosier picture than the reality.