Husband and Mother arguing

[Onslow1985]

My friends, husband, mother and stepdad all went out to enjoy the sunshine this weekend and spent hours in a beer garden drinking. Lovely night had by all, however the drink hit me the wrong way and my husband and mother agreed it was time to leave. My husband told me to give him my phone so I wouldn’t lose and my mother responded with a sarcastic comment about it being controlling. Wrong thing to say and she apologised as she doesn’t believe this however my husband is understandably angry & offended. All just a misunderstanding in drink. I feel it’s my fault for getting in that state in the first place and not sleeping or eating because the situation is making me so anxious. My husband and I have faced a lot of challenges dealing with 5 miscarriages and sometimes it affects our relationship. I might rant to my mother the odd time but realised that this is not the right thing to do. Any advice on how I approach this, I feel I’m stuck in the middle and my husband is angry thinking I’m not on his side.

@Onslow1985 maybe worth you looking for counselling from your GP to help you with your MH. Your DM sounds like she really cares about you

"So if I was op's husband, fuck that shit, I'd be out".

You'd really leave your spouse because they were too drunk to handle a situation the right way, immediately?

OP, you need to stop bringing the shit from your marriage up your mother's door. She will remember what you said about your husband long after the two of you have kissed and made up. It isn't fair to either of them to over share with her. Obviously if your husband was actually abusive, that would be one thing and you'd need her support. But just normal, petty rows, she really doesn't need to hear about.

I get why your dh is upset. I think you need to tell your mum that dh isn't controlling you (if you are certain he's not) but I also think that repeated miscarriages are stressful and if you are arguing lots, then get some help