I recently posted about my recent relationship breakup and received great support (thank you). Following a five year relationship, during which I completely financially supported my ex and he excluded me from his family/life, our relationship ended 6 weeks ago. Two months prior to this, I asked him to leave having found messages 6 months in to our relationship, where he was arranging to meet girls for sex. He denied sending these. After asking him to leave, we spoke and agreed to "try" to fix the relationship. Him reluctantly so. During the two month period, he cruelly played me and I am struggling to overcome this. Very hot and cold, one minute instigating intimacy, the next being completely cold towards me and refusing any form of physical touch. Two weeks prior to official separation, we went away for the night. I suggested separate rooms, but he asked that we share. At the beginning of the weekend, he was affectionate, holding my hand, telling me he wanted us to work things out. When I tried to get closer, he pushed me away and refused intimacy. I calmly advised that it was clear our relationship was over and I would make my own way home, rather than travel home together as was planned. He turned up at the train station sobbing that we couldn't end things this way, I was his future/his life. I felt so low, drained and confused and stupidly caved. The next day he turned cold again and ended our relationship two weeks later, moving in with his new girlfriend four weeks later. I feel so low, stupid and traumatised by the whole affair. How do I get over this? I am in therapy which is trying to get to my inner child, but it isn't working. Is there a more suitable form of therapy? I am heartbroken accepting that my whole relationship was a lie and am struggling to come to terms with why I allowed him to treat me so cruelly.